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A collection of free resources and articles on NLP and Hypnotherapy.
How To Make The Best Decision Of Your Life
We’ve all been there, wondering and wondering whether it is the right time to make that really important decision. When was the last time for you? Were you purchasing a house? Buying a new car? Or choosing on whether to make that all important business decision that could potentially be the best thing you’ve ever done? How did you decide that now is the right time?
Read MoreHow To Talk Yourself Over Stage Fright – The Power Of Language
Her hands were visibly shaking as she walked up to the stage with her guitar. “Are you ok?” I asked, as she glanced at me like a rabbit in headlights. “I’m going to mess up, I know it!” she replied, “I’m absolutely petrified!” I believed her. She was talking herself into a state of panic. As the saying goes in NLP (neuro linguistic programming), you get what you focus on, and in her case, bless her, she was focusing on everything but performing well or feeling confident. How many times have you heard a performer speak like that? Even after hearing them in rehearsals playing their performance perfectly, they still speak as though they are destined to fail. Here’s the thing about language… If I said to you “don’t think of a blue tree”, what do you instantly think of? A blue tree right? You see, our minds (unconscious mind), don’t process negatives, which in simple terms means, whatever you say consciously, it has to process what it is to know not to think about it. Let’s take the example of the ‘blue tree’. When I say to you “don’t think of a blue tree”, your unconscious mind goes through all the information it has stored, and retrieves all the pictures, sounds, feelings and information labeled ‘blue tree’. It will then present all of that information to your conscious mind and go “hey, this is that blue tree you asked for, now don’t think of it!” This same principle works for what we say to ourselves in our heads. What do you think happens when we say to ourselves “oh man, I’m so nervous, I’m going to mess this whole thing up and look stupid”? Well our unconscious mind will go and search for all of the pictures, sounds, feelings and information around ‘nervous’, ‘mess up’ and ‘look stupid’ and present that to you. Basically you are telling yourself to feel all of those things. So what can you do instead? Focus on everything you do want. Instead of saying “I feel so nervous” say “I’m going to feel so confident during this performance” or “I’m going to be so excited as soon as I play this through perfectly!” Your unconscious mind will then go and retrieve all the pictures, sounds, feelings and information for ‘excited’, ‘confidence’ and ‘play this through perfectly’. You will be amazed at how quick this simple technique can rapidly change your state to a more positive one. This principle is also good for teachers. Be aware of the words you are using with students. For example, if you say, “this passage is really difficult” guess how the students will find it? You guessed it; they will find it ‘really difficult’. Alternatively if you said, “this passage is less easy” the word ‘easy’ will be taken in rather than ‘difficult’. In a typical coaching setting, we would teach this strategy to those with performance anxiety, alongside working with them to let go of the fear they hold. This will build a new mental strategy for performing confidently. If you think it’s time to let go of your performance anxiety, email us today oninfo@developforlife.co.uk to book your free initial consultation. Alternatively, if you run a music school or college, and would like your services to include performance anxiety coaching, get in touch today to book a meeting with a member of our team. Thank you for reading...
Read More44 Free NLP Resources – Everything You Need To Get Started In Neuro Linguistic Programming
When starting out in NLP, or in the early stages of your research into the subject, the various outlets of information can be overwhelming, and a lot of the time conflicting. I decided to compile this list of resources to help those find the best and most trusted resources within the vast field of NLP. The list is split into 4 sections: Organisations – Detailing the main regulating bodies of NLP and various schools of thought. Key Figures – The ‘who’s who’ of NLP including the curators of Neuro Linguistic Programming, and some of the pioneers in the field. Publications – A list of some of the best books and publications written on NLP NLP Subjects – A list of the main subject area’s of Neuro Linguistic programming. At short, a list of the type of subjects you’d typically find in an NLP Training Course, and all the areas a top quality NLP Practitioner should be knowledgeable in. Organisations ABNLP – The American Board of NLP was founded in 1996 by Dr. A.M. Krasner as the Sister Organisation to the American Board of Hypnotherapy. Today they have over 500 institutes worldwide approved at the Trainer Level of NLP, and have thousands of members. The organisation has strong ties with Dr. Tad James, a pioneer in the field of NLP, creator of Time Line Therapyâ, and his company the Tad James Co. This organisation is my personal preference for association. They’re trainers are highly skilled, and they provide training in Clare Graves Values Levels, as well as Time Line Therapyâ which are extremely valuable tools to aid coaching. Society of NLP – The Society of NLP is Richard Bandler’s (co-creator of NLP) awarding body. After John Grinder and himself stopped training together, he has since partnered up with Paul Mckenna and John La Valle. Richard Bandler has since created his own models of coaching including his Design Human Engineeringâ and Charisma Enhancementâ seminars and workshops. ITANLP – The International Trainers Academy of NLP is John Grinder’s (co-creator of NLP) school of NLP. He now trains alongside Carmen Bostic St Clair and Michael Carroll. The school also train John Grinder’s model of NLP which is named New Code NLPâ NLPU – The NLP University is Robert Dilt’s School. Robert has been involved in the development of NLP since the beginning, and has provided many valuable models to the development in NLP, including his Sleight Of Mouth patterns. ANLP – Independent organisation based in the UK You may find details of many more institutions including the Professional Guild of NLP, the National Federation of NLP, and many other new organisations are being started all the time from newly qualified Trainers and Master Trainers of NLP. From my experience, the one’s I have highlighted above have the highest quality resources, and are ran by those who have contributed the most to the field of NLP. Key Figures Richard Bandler – As mentioned earlier, Richard co-created NLP back in the 70’s with John Grinder while studying at Santa Cruz University in California. His skills in Mathematics and Computer Programming were utilised when they modelled Virginia Satir and Milton Erikson to create the first models of NLP. He has since wrote many books, and recently co-created a new model of techniques named Design Human Engineeringâ John Grinder – The other co-creator of NLP who first met with Richard at Santa Cruz University where John was a professor of Linguistics. He now runs his own school (ITANLP) and teaches his new model – New Code NLP. Robert Dilts – Robert has been involved in the development of NLP since he became a student of Richard and John’s in the mid 70’s. He has wrote many books including his one on Sleight of Mouth Patterns. Tad James – Dr Tad James was the second person in the world to be certified as a Master Trainer of NLP. He created his own model and technique Time Line Therapyâ which is extremely effective at helping people let go of negative emotions and limiting...
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